You have just spilled your espresso all over your new white jeans. Time to text “@#$%^! my life” to your friends?
Someone dented your car while you were at the grocery store. Should you vent on Twitter?
The bank froze your credit card temporarily because it deemed your last purchase suspicious. Post your outrage on Facebook? Still no.
Why not? What’s wrong with venting? Turn the question on it’s head.
Care to guess what characteristic the most successful people in the world share? Is it drive? Luck? The ability to calculate large sums in their head? No again. It’s gratitude. You just don’t see them complaining.
I can hear you thinking… “Well of course these people can be grateful. They have everything going their way!” So let’s back it up a bit.
- You have way, way more to be grateful for than you realize
One out of eight people suffered from “chronic undernourishment” in 2011-2012.
Half of the world lives on less than $2.50 per day.
There are still more than 40 major armed conflicts happening the world right now, with fatalities numbering in the tens of thousands.
In Ecuador, you can be jailed for having a miscarriage.
Perspective is everything, isn’t it?
- The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel. – Steve Furtick
Successful people have bad days too. They lose money. They lose friends and relatives. They get old. Believe it or not, the universe treats them the same way it treats you.
They also screw things up, and make mistakes, and some of them barely hold it together or even fall to pieces from time to time. But because they keep going and don’t make a big deal out of it, their successes tend to outnumber their failures, and we forget the bad bits.
- If you always speak of your troubles, you’ll always have troubles to speak of
I don’t know who came up with this line, but it’s exactly right. Some people like to talk about the law of attraction, other people talk about karma. Me, I think we end up in a feedback loop: the more we focus on and talk about the bad things that happen, the more we unconsciously do things that bring more bad things and drama into our lives.
And of course, the opposite holds true: the more we focus on and talk about the good things that happen, and — especially this — the better we make other people feel, the more we unconsciously do things to improve our lot in life.
So if you really want to be successful, start by focusing on your successes, and quietly shrug off all of your problems.
You’ll be amazed at how quickly things turn around for you.